I’ve taken belly dance lessons off and on (WAY more off than on) for a number of years. Finally, six weeks ago I auditioned for a belly dance troupe and made it! Our debut performance was last night. I lost 15 pounds for this performance but I wish it could have been a lot more. So exposing Continue reading “Belly Dance Confessions”
I’m all for creating and pursuing grand visions for our lives. But sometimes focusing too much on the big picture can feel overwhelming. Sometimes, we’re better off starting small and letting each small success give us the confidence Continue reading “Want to Transform Your Life? Start with One of These 15 Mini-Changes”
If you ask me, the Olympics should recognize moisturizer application as a winter sport and allow women to compete internationally. I just can’t decide whether the competition should be based on speed or results. Should the gold go to the woman who can apply the most lotion in the least amount of time, or the woman Continue reading “Cold Weather Sports of Another Kind”
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Not that there was anything particularly horrible on my plate today. Just a mish-mash of administrative tasks, loose ends and errands. I found myself thinking stuff like this: “Let’s see…I have to make that deposit. Oh, and I have to finish that report and get it to my clients. I have to put that roast in oven AND I have to take my kids to buy shoes for school!”
I felt stressed! I was exhausted before my day even got started.
Then something occured to me. I decided to make one small change. Suddenly my entire world seemed brighter.
The change I made was very simple. In fact, it involved just one word. In my self-talk, I replaced the word “have” with the word “get.” Suddenly I had a whole new perspective on my day as I began thinking things like this:
“Let’s see…I get to make that deposit!”
“Oh, and I get to finish that report and get it to my clients.” (Thank God I have clients!)
“I get to put a roast in the oven AND I get to take my kids to buy shoes for school!”
Wow! Suddenly these tasks seemed more akin to opportunities than obligations. I went from feeling stressed… to feeling blessed!
Try it some day. In fact, why not try it today?
Sometimes a small change can make all the difference in your world.
Maybe you lost your waistline or your temper or your biggest client. You failed someone you love. A friend said something mean. You picked up a bad habit. You picked a fight. You picked door number three when all the really great prizes were behind door number one.
Is there anything good you can glean from the experience?
Did you learn something? Grow in some way? Did you handle something in a way you can be proud of later? Did you model something healthy for your kids? Did you keep your wits about you? Handle something with integrity? If not, did you handle your mistake well, eventually seeking accountability or forgiveness or resolution?
We all mess up. And when we do, we have a choice. We can remember the mistake, failure or wound. Or we can remember the growth that occured as a result. The first option hurts. The second heals. The choice is ours.